I would like you to weigh in on this situation, Dan. The only problem is one of the theatre group’s fans, who is 50 and gay, befriended my sister and seems to be fixated on my nephew: he posts to my nephew’s Facebook page he’s constantly asking my sister to allow my nephew to spend the night at his apartment, et cetera. My 13-year-old nephew, who is straight, was in a play last year. You might want to give ’em a little time. Which is to say: you may have already met your next boyfriend, WASTED, but his fierce field was up. It’s a force field-it’s a fierce field-that many SSCFTs eventually drop. But some boys react to the pressures of being young, gay, and out by dialing it up to 20. SSCFTs can be attractive, and some guys are into SSCFTs.
And who knows? You might meet a nice boy while you’re out there doing shit.Īs for those “sassy stereotypical caricature flamer types”, WASTED… But you’ll find the next few years less aggravating if you take the long view and keep busy, all the while jerking it to your part’s content. I’m not telling you that you should wait until you’re 20 to date. Beat off in the interim, WASTED, remembering to vary your masturbatory routine (left hand, right hand firm grip, soft touch with toys, without lots of lube, just a drop et cetera), and try to cultivate your own erotic imagination (translation: don’t jerk off to Internet porn exclusively use your imagination once in a while). You’ll have more boys to choose from in a few years and you’ll be a more interesting, more informed, more attractive guy thanks to all that doing, reading, and volunteering. Get out of the house and do shit get books and read shit volunteer for a political organization and change shit. Sorry, WASTED, but you’re gonna get the same advice I give to hard and hard-up 16-year-old straight boys: worry less about getting your 16-year-old self laid and more about getting your 20-year-old self laid. I know the logical thing is for me to wait, but how am I supposed to wait? Is there any alternative? I just hate thinking I’m alone for the foreseeable future. But those are the kind of people who are out at 16. All the out gay guys here are nice, but most are sassy stereotypical caricature flamer types and I’m not attracted to any of them. We’ll be friends again, I’m sure, but now I don’t even have a hint of any sort of anything on the horizon, and it’s driving me insane. My first boyfriend and I broke up recently. I’m 16 and an openly gay boy in a very welcoming community. But you’re his dad and he has to hear you out-whether he wants to or not.
#NICE 18 YEARS OLD GAY VIDEOS FREE#
There are exceptions, of course, and maybe his boyfriend is exceptional-maybe he’s not a jerk who pursues naive boys because gay men his own age can see through his shit-but the simple fact of his age requires that he be subjected to a higher degree of scrutiny than a first boyfriend who was closer to your son’s own age.įinally, OCD, tell your son that you know he’s an adult and free to date whomever he wants. Something’s usually wrong with the 31-year-old. (If you didn’t already know that, now you do.) And tell your son that this gay dude you know-that would be me, OCD-told you that something’s usually wrong when a 31-year-old is dating a teenager. Here’s what I would do if I were in your shoes, OCD-I would take my son’s 31-year-old boyfriend out for a beer and ask him a lot of pointed questions: how did you meet my son? Are you having sex with my son? Are you using condoms? What is your HIV status? How old was your last boyfriend? And, finally, do you realize that I will tear you gay limb from gay limb if you hurt my gay kid?Īs for your son, OCD, tell him that you realize gay guys his age sometimes date older men because there aren’t a lot of boys his own age to choose from. Your son, despite what he might tell you, needs his parents to advise him, meddle in his affairs, even object and interfere. But “supportive” parents who let their gay kids get away with murder-supportive parents who stop parenting their gay kids because they worry about seeming homophobic if they object to lousy gay boyfriends, choices, apparel, et cetera-aren’t doing their gay kids any favours, either. Beyond that, even if I can establish that it’s okay to have an objection, or to feel the need to take some action to be supportive for my son, I don’t know what I can or should do.
If I had an 18-year-old heterosexual daughter who was in a relationship with a 31-year-old man, I would have exactly the same concerns and objections. I don’t think this is a gay-versus-straight objection. His mother argues that in order to be supportive, we can’t object to this relationship. Yes, my son is a legal adult at 18 and can make his own decisions, but he’s also still in high school.
Here’s the problem: my son is in a relationship with a 31-year-old guy.
I am the father of a recently out 18-year-old gay boy.